Dealing With Post-Wedding Blues
How to Handle Blue Feelings After the Wedding
Feeling of sadness after the wedding can be a common occurrance for many brides. Understanding that these emotions are normal can help brides process these feelings.
What is a rarely discussed issue that afflicts many brides right after the wedding? The post-wedding blues. These blues can occur the day after or a few weeks after the wedding. If the post-wedding blues have hit you, don’t worry. It’s perfectly normal.
And it makes sense, if you think about it. Many brides spend months, sometimes years, planning for their wedding. And, it’s one of the few times in life that everything is all about you. (That is, unless the bride in question is a self-centered narcissist who expects everything to revolve around her most of the time already, which is a totally different issue.) So when the beautiful day has come and gone, it’s not uncommon for a bride to find herself thinking, “What now?”
With no wedding tasks at hand, a bride can suddenly find herself with lots of time to kill and no big event to look forward to. However, it’s important to keep in mind you have just married your best friend and the love of your life. So it’s essential to move your focus gradually from “the big day” to building a new life together. If you find yourself feeling lost and a little out of sorts soon after your wedding, chances are you are suffering from a bout of post-wedding depression. Keep these things in mind when dealing with these unexpected emotions.
Talk to Your Partner
You may be feeling blue or even a sense of loss after the wedding. This can be partly due to the fact a big, life-changing event has just occurred, albeit a positive one. After all, you have just left your single life behind. And even though you are confident that you married your soul mate, it’s perfectly okay to mourn the loss of your former life and feel a little sadness. Marriage is a big transition. Talk to you spouse about these feelings. More than likely, they are feeling similar emotions.
Be Social
The engagement is a time when lots of other things, including family and friends, get put on the back burner as couples frantically try to get everything done for their big event. Plan some outings with those that have been neglected. Book dates with friends. Host a cookout or a party. But don’t overdo it. Don’t jump from one harried, event-filled phase of your life, right into another. Plan to spend time with loved ones, but make sure you take time for yourselves, which leads right into the next point…
Relax
The wedding planning process can take a toll, both physically and emotionally. So when the big day has come and gone, the presents have been opened and the dress has been put away, take some time to just chill out and spend quiet time together. Get cozy and relax at home, or plan some dates that you didn’t have time for during the frenzied engagement process. Either way, take it easy and have a good time together, and start enjoying life as a married couple without the sense of urgency and stress you were likely feeling in the months leading up to the wedding.
